THE ‘CHEMISTRY’ BIOLOGY AND PHYSICS OF LOVE

February-14th the only day of the year that every ‘couple’ prays never to end and every ‘single’ guy prays never to begin .On the valentine’s day of 2014 I walked along the world’s second longest beach “The Marina” wondering with bewilderment, awe(and some jealousy of course!) at the sheer number of couples filling the beach sand. Braving the heat of the scorching sun that refused to reduce its intensity even at 5 30 pm, hundreds of couples sat there chit chatting their way to a dream land.

Among all the couples there was one pair that caught my attention, because from the moment they reached the sea shore they never spoke a word to each other. Both of them were staring at the wide open sea and apart occasional glances there seemed to be no interaction between the two. Even more intriguing was the fact that judging by their facial expressions both of them seemed to be enjoying each other’s company without a single spoken word. I slowly approached the couple but they continued to have a wonderful time completely oblivious to the fact that my pair of envious eyes was scanning them from tip to toe. As soon as I was close enough I tapped on the guy’s shoulder. He turned around, irritated at being disturbed, he blurted out a rude, “what?”  I asked the guy, “Boss, can I ask u something?”With his irritation increasing even more he repeated his statement, “what?” Faking a polite tone, I asked him, “what is it that makes you guys stick together & enjoy each other’s company so much!?”As soon as I finished my question the irritation on his face disappeared and was replaced by a pleasant smile, he looked at his girl and winked, she replied gracefully with a blush. The guy moved an inch closer to me and replied“chemistry man! We have a beautiful chemistry between us that fills us with joy whenever we are together!”

At that moment I kicked myself for having hated the great subject of ‘chemistry’ all through my middle and high school.

THE CHEMISTRY AND BIOLOGY OF LOVE

LOVE IS A SERIOUS MENTAL DISEASE

-PLATO

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To all the people who say ‘love is a matter of the heart’, am sorry to disappoint you but your heart has nothing to do with love. So who is the real culprit? We can never really ‘think up’ the answer to this question because the ‘culprit’ is only doing the thinking for us. Yes the real culprit is the brain.
The Ventral tegmental area is a small factory in the brain that creates one of the most important hormone in the brain called dopamine. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter that helps in controlling the pleasure center of the brain. Thus the pleasure of intense romantic is the same pleasure pleasure as the rush of cocaine(at least you come down from the high of cocaine).

So girls,next time a guy proposes to you like this

Propose-With-Truly-Heart

Please do not accept because he should really be proposing like this

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So what is love?

The modern day philosopher Yann Dall’Agilo expresses it best!

“Love. It is nothing more than the desire to be desired!

No matter who we are, what we do every single human being on this planet wants to be desirable. The ever increasing level of consumerism is prevalent today only because of the drive to be desirable. Historians classify our age as a materialistic age and philosophers identify as materialistic people but at the root of all this materialism is the need to be desired. What better illustaration is needed for this theory more than a teenager who buys a perfectly good pair of expensive jeans and tear them at the knee, just so that he/she can be desirable among peers.

Love is also one of the most addicting substances in the world. It has all the features of any other substance addiction but the only difference here being that you are addicted to another human being. This is nature’s way of ensuring the desire for life’s greatest prize ‘an appropriate mating partner’.

 THE LAW OF ATTRACTION (PHYSICS OF LOVE)

Ulagathula evlo paer irunthum naa yaen  unna love panen?(there are millions of people in the world yet why did I choose you?)

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Have you ever experienced the WTF  moment when the hottest girl in your office falls for the lamest guy you can imagine!

Life’s greatest beauty lies in this unsolvable paradox of love.The when,where and how of love is a question that has traveled with humans from the very beginning.  But this is one question we don’t want to know the answer to,because this great puzzle holds the ray of hope to life’s greatest prize,”an appropriate life partner!”

After decades of research these so called experts have only been able to scratch the surface in their futile attempts to understand true love. May be one day in the future humans will evolve to understand the depth of the most powerful emotion in humans.

Untill then humans will continue  to dance for love, sing for love , compose poems for love , kill for love , die for love and be entranced by the magic of love.

content courtesy: millennialchanakya.wordpress.com

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Disclaimer!

All characters in this blog post are non-fictional
Any resemblance to people living or dead is absolutely intentional

Right from the day Eadweard Muybridge discovered the, “fore father” of what we today call cinema, films by its very nature were flat and 2D. In the year 1922, approximately 30 years after the arrival of the motion picture, a gathering of exquisite guests and journalists were invited for a special movie screening. While entering  the movie hall they were all handed a pair of gawky glasses that made them appear creepy, but moments later when the movie started the very same of pair of glasses magically brought the  movie close to their eyes, so close that they could almost touch it. It gave the 2D film the third dimension. It gave the flat film the perception of depth. It gave the film a new ‘life’.

Science tells us that Humans too are perceived by fellow humans in 3D. But I beg to differ on that. I dare to say that more than 90% humans perceive, not just their fellow humans but even themselves only in 2D. Let me prove it to you!

Let us assume you are sidharth working in one of the biggest IT companies of the country. How would you introduce yourself when you meet a new person-say a hot looking girl?

“Hey I am sidhart and I am working in an IT company”

This is the introduction used by most people today but does your name and job define you perfectly???

In a country like India where there are just a handful of names for a billion people you really shouldn’t expect your name to be your identification. As for the occupation, with the population of IT professionals catching up rapidly with the total population of mosquitoes in the country, I doubt whether it will ever serve as a viable unique identification. But still from a loan to a lover, from a bribe to bride everything in India is determined only based on this 2d perception.

I am not trivializing the power of the name. A right family name (though fake) like the Gandhi family, could hand over the reins of the nation to you for decades (though some cases are beyond saving #Rahul Gandhi)

Not just the perception of identity but the perception of personality too unfortunately is always 2d. A glimpse into the common adjectives of our times, “hot, sexy, nerdy, handsome hunk to my personal favorite’s dick head and douche bag”, is all great examples of our superficial 2d perception of other people. I was no different in judging people until…

After three months of an amazing training program that gave me negligible technical lessons but huge life lessons (loser-I & loser-II).I finally made it to a project in Asia’s largest IT facility in Chennai. First day in an IT company is very much like your first day in kindergarten. Everything is absolutely alien to you. After a few formal introductions my team lead asked me to pull up a chair and sit in one of the cubicles. I was sitting there stranded like a mosquito in a spider web. There was an uneasy silence around that started suffocating me.  When the suffocation started reaching its peak, “hi, so u r the newcomer! What’s your name?” asked a female voice from right behind me. I turned back to face a kind, cheerful, fully figured girl. She was my senior in the project and also the senior most in the team.  With no air of superiority she came and spoke to me casually. For the next 15 min she told me a lot about herself. She even told me about her boyfriend. I could tell she was really into this guy from the way she spoke about him and out of curiosity I asked her

“Do you really know that your boyfriend really likes you as much as you like him?”

With a tone that was filled with love, pinches of possessiveness and sarcasm she said

“Oh…he doesn’t have a choice!!”

Care-free, fun loving, mischievous girl who lived every day of her life like a day in a picnic, this was the perception that i had about her right from day one. As a guy who has been walking around with the burden of a big ambition all through life. I was really envious of her care free lifestyle.

After about a week of joining, one fine evening I was sitting next to her and learning some technical trivia. In a light moment I asked

“So when r u planning to get married?”

In her ever so cheerful tone, she replied

“Not thought about it yet!”

“How will your parents react when they come to know about your relationship”, I asked her next.

“Oh…they know!”, she said coolly, staring at the computer screen.

“Do your boyfriend’s parents know?” I continued my quiz

“Yes of course!!” came another super cool reply without even looking at me.

“So why r u not getting married?” I pestered her again.

Her fingers that always jostles the mouse around confidently, slowly fumbled. I saw single drop of water wet the space bar of her keyboard. I looked up to realize the drop was a tear drop rolling down her cheek.

With eyes swelled up with tears and a melancholy smile that she forced on her lips she said

“I haven’t thought about our marriage cause my boy friend passed away!”

For the first time in my life I refused to believe my own ears. The floor under my feet seemed to slip away! I knew there was a mistake, I wanted to confirm, but words started betraying me. Finally I managed to blurt out a small

“What???”

“My boy friend died of cancer 2 years ago!”, Came the reply. It took some time for the reality to sync in. Slowly I started to realize. Her boy friend has been dead for two full years and yet she refers to him like he is right next to her. Whenever anybody asks about her relationship status, without a single second pause she replies, “I am committed”. How can a guy ever impact a girl this much???. I realized one thing, I have never met this guy nor will i ever meet him but i know one thing about him for sure. Though he lived a short life on this planet he has lead a meaningful one.

At that instant…”thappad” I felt a powerful slap on my face. I suddenly realized my imbecile perception of my senior. From the caricatured cinematic cheerful girl, she transformed into a deep meaningful person. I actually felt like she handed me a pair of invisible glasses that made me change my 2d view of the world into 3d.

From that day on the world has been a changed place for me. All the failures in my life strangely made more sense to me now.

When I looked at my mom who was shouting at me for my indiscipline, I was able to see her care instead of anger

When I fought with my friend for a small issue and decided to cut out our relationship, I remembered all she had done for me so far

When I saw my fragile friend going through a hard break up, I felt happy that she was becoming stronger instead of pity

Everybody has a pair of these amazing 3d glasses that gives the whole new dimension to the world. Just like the movies it’s much more fun than a  normal world

Take your pair and try them on guys…at least it’s definitely better than the lame sun glasses!!!

P.S. The reply I got from my senior when I showed her the blog post, Equivalent to a hundred standing ovations.
Don’t worry akka he will continue to live on, in all our hearts!

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