All characters in this blog post are non-fictional
Any resemblance to people living or dead is absolutely intentional
Right from the day Eadweard Muybridge discovered the, fore father” of what we today call cinema, films by its very nature were flat and 2D. In the year 1922, approximately 30 years after the arrival of the motion picture, a gathering of exquisite guests and journalists were invited for a special movie screening. While entering the movie hall they were all handed a pair of gawky glasses that made them appear creepy, but moments later when the movie started the very same of pair of glasses magically brought the movie close to their eyes, so close that they could almost touch it. It gave the 2D film the third dimension. It gave the flat film the perception of depth. It gave the film a new life.
Science tells us that Humans too are perceived by fellow humans in 3D. But I beg to differ on that. I dare to say that more than 90% humans perceive, not just their fellow humans but even themselves only in 2D. Let me prove it to you!
Let us assume you are sidharth working in one of the biggest IT companies of the country. How would you introduce yourself when you meet a new person-say a hot looking girl?
“Hey I am sidhart and I am working in an IT company”
This is the introduction used by most people today but does your name and job define you perfectly???
In a country like India where there are just a handful of names for a billion people you really shouldn’t expect your name to be your identification. As for the occupation, with the population of IT professionals catching up rapidly with the total population of mosquitoes in the country, I doubt whether it will ever serve as a viable unique identification. But still from a loan to a lover, from a bribe to bride everything in India is determined only based on this 2d perception.
I am not trivializing the power of the name. A right family name (though fake) like the Gandhi family, could hand over the reins of the nation to you for decades (though some cases are beyond saving #Rahul Gandhi)
Not just the perception of identity but the perception of personality too unfortunately is always 2d. A glimpse into the common adjectives of our times, “hot, sexy, nerdy, handsome hunk to my personal favorite’s dick head and douche bag”, is all great examples of our superficial 2d perception of other people. I was no different in judging people until…
After three months of an amazing training program that gave me negligible technical lessons but huge life lessons (loser-I & loser-II).I finally made it to a project in Asia’s largest IT facility in Chennai. First day in an IT company is very much like your first day in kindergarten. Everything is absolutely alien to you. After a few formal introductions my team lead asked me to pull up a chair and sit in one of the cubicles. I was sitting there stranded like a mosquito in a spider web. There was an uneasy silence around that started suffocating me. When the suffocation started reaching its peak, “hi, so u r the newcomer! What’s your name?” asked a female voice from right behind me. I turned back to face a kind, cheerful, fully figured girl. She was my senior in the project and also the senior most in the team. With no air of superiority she came and spoke to me casually. For the next 15 min she told me a lot about herself. She even told me about her boyfriend. I could tell she was really into this guy from the way she spoke about him and out of curiosity I asked her
“Do you really know that your boyfriend really likes you as much as you like him?”
With a tone that was filled with love, pinches of possessiveness and sarcasm she said
“Oh…he doesn’t have a choice!!”
Care-free, fun loving, mischievous girl who lived every day of her life like a day in a picnic, this was the perception that i had about her right from day one. As a guy who has been walking around with the burden of a big ambition all through life. I was really envious of her care free lifestyle.
After about a week of joining, one fine evening I was sitting next to her and learning some technical trivia. In a light moment I asked
“So when r u planning to get married?”
In her ever so cheerful tone, she replied
“Not thought about it yet!”
“How will your parents react when they come to know about your relationship”, I asked her next.
“Oh…they know!”, she said coolly, staring at the computer screen.
“Do your boyfriend’s parents know?” I continued my quiz
“Yes of course!!” came another super cool reply without even looking at me.
“So why r u not getting married?” I pestered her again.
Her fingers that always jostles the mouse around confidently, slowly fumbled. I saw single drop of water wet the space bar of her keyboard. I looked up to realize the drop was a tear drop rolling down her cheek.
With eyes swelled up with tears and a melancholy smile that she forced on her lips she said
“I haven’t thought about our marriage cause my boy friend passed away!”
For the first time in my life I refused to believe my own ears. The floor under my feet seemed to slip away! I knew there was a mistake, I wanted to confirm, but words started betraying me. Finally I managed to blurt out a small
“My boy friend died of cancer 2 years ago!”, Came the reply. It took some time for the reality to sync in. Slowly I started to realize. Her boy friend has been dead for two full years and yet she refers to him like he is right next to her. Whenever anybody asks about her relationship status, without a single second pause she replies, “I am committed”. How can a guy ever impact a girl this much???. I realized one thing, I have never met this guy nor will i ever meet him but i know one thing about him for sure. Though he lived a short life on this planet he has lead a meaningful one.
At that instant…”thappad” I felt a powerful slap on my face. I suddenly realized my imbecile perception of my senior. From the caricatured cinematic cheerful girl, she transformed into a deep meaningful person. I actually felt like she handed me a pair of invisible glasses that made me change my 2d view of the world into 3d.
From that day on the world has been a changed place for me. All the failures in my life strangely made more sense to me now.
When I looked at my mom who was shouting at me for my indiscipline, I was able to see her care instead of anger
When I fought with my friend for a small issue and decided to cut out our relationship, I remembered all she had done for me so far
When I saw my fragile friend going through a hard break up, I felt happy that she was becoming stronger instead of pity
Everybody has a pair of these amazing 3d glasses that gives the whole new dimension to the world. Just like the movies it’s much more fun than a normal world
Take your pair and try them on guys…at least it’s definitely better than the lame sun glasses!!!
P.S. The reply I got from my senior when I showed her the blog post, Equivalent to a hundred standing ovations.
Don’t worry akka he will continue to live on, in all our hearts!